No Person Is Perfect

The terminology of “soulmates” implies that there is one and only one person in the whole world who would be the perfect spouse with whom we would be happy and always content. The belief that God has created such a person and intends that this person be found is both unrealistic and burdensome. It can also reveal a very selfish tendency by which other people exist for one’s own happiness and personal fulfillment.

Positive human relationships will always involve two imperfect persons who work through their differences, build on their commonalities, encourage each other’s growth in holiness and virtue, and bear with one another’s shortcomings. While not everyone will fit this description, there are certainly more than one single person in the whole world who can.

The challenge in finding a spouse is to discern whether a lifelong relationship with a particular person will be positive, not perfect.